Psishaman Parapsychology

…About relationships. In fact, 97% of all questions asked of a psychic is about relationships. About half that amount are requests for reuniting exes, a quarter are for finding love and a quarter refer to those seeking solace in other marriages. In the 2-3 years I’ve been at Kasamba, I’ve only had one parapsychology question. Most of my clients outside of Kasamba are also relationship-related.

The most common factor in the majority of these cases is that of a lack of communication. People don’t know how to communicate to their partners, which isn’t exclusively about talking. It also includes listening skills and understanding. It’s a two-way process and is never one-sided. Otherwise that causes an imbalance in the relationship, which results in a breakup or an extra-marital affair. When it comes to telling this to people (online and offline), it’s often misrepresented still.

People want answers, they want solutions to everyday problems, and they want immediate results, but they often turn to psychics under the assumption that a psychic can heal their ailments, generate love for them, repair the rifts that actions or circumstances have caused, and a plethora of other things too. There is this growing misconception that psychics are some omniscient, omnipotent being capable of performing godlike miracles. Essentially, a psychic is a counsellor, with the added advantage of seeing beyond the “normal” parameters defined by psychological practices.

No one can fix a relationship but the individuals themselves. If the issues that caused the separation or breakup in the first place are left unresolved, i.e. are not dealt with, then it will carry over into the next relationship. And, of course, while the stem of the breakup remains stagnant, there will not be a reconciliation. If one of the partners chooses to move away from the negatives within that relationship, finding something more positive elsewhere, then that is a conscious choice they have made for themselves. Nothing will change that choice, except the person himself or herself.

The hardest part is learning the reasons why the breakup occurred in the first place and then addressing them so that, if there is any chance at all of a reconciliation, it will be because BOTH parties have dealt with the issues and WANT to be together. It takes a lot of hard work and effort to make a relationship, but little effort to break the relationship. The same applies to love. It takes a long time to establish a strong connection between two people, but a lifetime to develop it fully. With descriptions of “future loves”, that’s dangerous ground because the person will actually look for the described person, without actually making any individual effort, and the “right” person might be overlooked. Each relationship is a learning curve anyway, so the fun part is learning about your partner. (I’m still learning about my wife, Morrigan, as she is about me - even after 8 years of marriage.)

It can be very hard telling someone that their relationship is over and they need to move on, as their partner, husband or wife, or lover has already done. But it still needs to be done for clarity and peace of mind. The choices made by people are what dictates the outcomes of relationships, not anything that a psychic says. The psychic can offer advice or insight to help them through the process, whether good or bad news, but they are still limited by human emotions and experiences. The chances are that the psychic has gone through similar trials and can apply what they learned along the way to giving that “psychic insight”. It’s harder on the psychic when the client or individual becomes obstreperous because you’ve given them a “reality check” and have been told it’s over.

Relationships are never easy, but the relationship between a psychic and a client is often much harder.